“Let it go, it is not worth getting upset about that”.
Yep. I heard it way too many times.
To me, letting go is not that simple.
The more we try to suppress our emotion, the stronger our emotion gets should the same situation emerge in the later day.
And I am sure some of you will agree with it.
Too many times in the past when I said I had let it go, I had not truly let it go.
Whatever that was that I had told myself repeatedly that I had let it go , it had been buried inside me rather than been truly let go. Had the topic had ever been brought up again, that anger that had been buried within me resurfaced itself in the most ugliest way. I let them all out : all my frustration. all my pain. all that I had been putting up with.
How can I truly let go?
Having gone through a confrontation recently, it took me few days to let go. completely this time.
And here in this post I would love to share how I let it go.
Step 1: ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
I acknowledge that I was hurt. I was angry.
I told myself it is okay to feel this way.
It was okay to cry, to shout, to scream, to punch my pillows, to bury my head in my pillows.
Anything, really, to let those feelings off my chest.
Step 2: OBSERVE
I looked at the whole experience from an observer point of view :
” I am experiencing anger because (……….)”
” I am experiencing upset because (………..)”.
STEP 3: INVESTIGATE
Then I reflected on the below questions :
Which part(s) of the conversation did hurt me?
Why did it hurt me?
What is it that I truly need?
What is it that I learned about myself from this experience?
What is it that I am most afraid of? what do I fear?
Would hanging on to this feeling make me suffer or be at peace?
STEP 4: LET GO
Make peace with my thoughts about the situation. and completely let go.
Forgive them. For myself.
By forgiving them, I unhooked the ‘chain’ that had connected me to them.
And how did I feel after that?
I feel peaceful. Light.
I let go.
Tell me beautiful, how do you let go?