Throughout this particular morning I closely watched what was going through my mind. Wow I never realized I judged this much. So many thoughts imagining what I could have done better!
As the day began, I contemplated whether or not I would like to get brekkie from the nearby Maccas or to Brumbys which was 15 minutes away from my house. They were both on my way to work anyway however, the rain was pouring heavily outside.
My mind chattered…..”Do I want to get wet when getting out of the car (Brumbys) or do I want to do the drive-through in Maccas therefore staying dry, warm and cozy?”.
As I was driving closer towards Macca, I tried to see whether or not they were busy/packed with cars. It didn’t look that way, so I turned left at the traffic light and: “helloooooooo!”. 2 cars drove in before me – blocking the entrance, and I noticed one car from the other side of the car park was not able to exit the car park because of that.
I said to myself: ” That car shouldn’t be blocking the traffic!”. Annoyed
Later on I said to myself: “okay, I am going to get Brumbys”
Followed by: “I could have had breakfast at home”. Regretting about the past event
Then I rebuffed: ” I am on the road now. no point in thinking about that. off to Brumbys now!”. Back to the present moment
As I was heading to Brumbys in this wet weather, I saw few cars without their headlights on
I said to myself: ” People really should turn their headlights on in this weather!”. Annoyed
But they did not. I had 2 options here: to continue throwing judgments at them(resulting in resentment) or to choose to accept what is(resulting in inner peace). I chose the latter.
Throughout my morning route to work, yes, there were many other ‘shoulds‘ going through my mind.
I noticed whenever I was throwing a judgement, my muscles would tense up.
This form of ‘shoulds’ and all of these judgements are resistance towards what is.
When we resist what is, our inner peace is gone. I think our minds attach to these dramas – even the small things that we would not normally be bothered by – because we get bored.
Like in traffic. I find that every time I am out on the road driving, there is always one car which irritates me. And once that car is gone, my mind quickly scans my surroundings to find another ‘drama’ to attach itself to… more ‘shoulds‘, ‘shouldn’ts’ and drama.
It is hard, hey, to be present with our internal dialogue. But the more we do it, the more we will be more aware of how untrue these dramas in our mind are, and the more we will be able to let them go.
This is how we experience more inner peace.